Briefcase on the Kitchen Table

I know it is taboo to say this, especially as a strong, empowered woman but I’m going to put it out there anyway: my husband’s happiness is more important to me than my own.

This is taboo because of what it supposedly means. It means I am overly-submissive. It means I have a glass-ceiling on my dreams. It means I am overly invested in a one-sided relationship. It means I will wake up in 40 years and resent the person in bed next to me because I have hopes never realized and its all because of him. I do not, however, think any of this is true and here is why:

My happiness is more important to my husband than his own. It really truly is. This is the balance. This is the only way it works. People around us have sat through more than enough no-honey-I-want-to-do-what-you-want-to-do “arguments” to know this is true. Now, if it was one-sided, not reciprocated, that would be a toxic, unhealthy, and unfulfilling relationship. However, if both people feel that the other’s happiness is more important than their own, this can lead to a mutually beneficial, warm relationship in which each is constantly trying to help the other fulfill their dreams. And the outcome is two people who have two independent sets of dreams fulfilled with the help of one another.

So, yes. My husband’s happiness is more important than my own. Here’s to his dreams, my own dreams, and the dreams we share together.